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The death of a relative or close friend can be a tough experience for many of us. The funeral should give family and friends both an opportunity to celebrate the life that has been lived, as well as to express and share their sadness. Each ceremony deserves to be remembered as an occasion that uniquely and appropriately honours the person’s life with dignity, respect and love.


A growing number of people choose to live their lives without holding any religious beliefs, and it is important for their funeral to respect this.  Humanist Funerals are tailored and personalised ceremonies that make no reference to religious concepts; they are both inclusive of and acceptable to those attending for whom religion is part of their lives. The ceremonies can take place anywhere you choose (except in religious buildings or sites), though most are conducted at Crematoria or Burial Grounds.

Some people choose to have a simple Funeral ceremony, followed by a Memorial ceremony. This can be rich and full of wonderful detail and are typically much more relaxed because they are held in venues where people feel comfortable – eg. at home, in a pub or hotel, a village hall, a school, a college – even outdoors if the weather is fine.


I am an accredited Humanist Celebrant with Humanists UK and have conducted a wide variety (well over 1,000 as at August 2019) of funerals of differing style, formality and size.


When planning a Funeral and/or Memorial, I usually meet the family and friends in order to jointly create a ceremony that is unique and appropriate. Whatever the circumstances, I am non-judgmental and sensitive to the wishes of everyone involved.

A Funeral Ceremony usually includes music (recorded/live), poems, readings and tributes (all of which I can advise on).


A typical order of ceremony: 

  • Music for gathering and entrance
  • Welcome and introduction
  • Tribute(s) – spoken by Rebecca, family & friends
  • Poems and/or Readings
  • Personal Reflection Time – an opportunity for quiet thought & private prayer (silent or with background music)
  • Closing words – thankyous and announcements
  • Final Farewell (Committal)
  • Closing music

On the day, I act as the "mistress of ceremonies" and coordinate the whole ceremony. I will also write tailored pieces, particularly the tribute, and will read pieces on behalf of family and friends.

Memorial ceremonies have similar content but without the time restrictions associated with many Funerals.


Some recent testimonials:        

We are so pleased that we chose you as celebrant. The ceremony was exactly as we had hoped it might be. All the family thought you were excellent, and I am sure Jean herself would have been impressed. Interestingly, several of Jean’s friends told me they had no idea what to expect but were pleasantly surprised.
Jan 2020

Dear Rebecca, our families are extraordinarily grateful for conducting yesterday’s ceremony to celebrate Chris’s life. Everything about the ceremony had just the right touch and the love flowed like water. We could not ask for more. Please accept our sincerest thanks for all the good work, guidance and kindness you gave us at a time when we were at out lowest ebbs. Anyone who was there will remember a truly unforgettable event which showed that Chris was a very special person who loved and was loved and whose love will be remembered for evermore.
Aug 2019
Thank you.
What a great job you did !   ..... at the crematorium and Rowing Club. It was almost as though you knew my sister, from picking up bits of information from family and friends. The whole occasion was well co- ordinated by you and had just the right ‘feel’.  Thank you again
May 2019
Thanks for everything. The day went as I hoped and many people commented afterwards that they've never been to a funeral of that style before and how it was the best they've ever been to, which is what I wanted.
Feb 2019

Hi Rebecca
Thank you for the script and thank you for the ceremony you provided. I feel it all went according to plan. I had a very large number of people saying how great the service was, and how much Jonathan would have been thrilled about it.
Jan 2019